In our relationships we strive for “picture-perfect” balance, harmony. And so we avoid conflict - which, according to all the data and science, is actually our sweet spot for growth as a couple. We reject the notion that conflict is bad, and invite people to step in with curiosity, adaptability, and vulnerability instead.

We’ve inherited so many things from our family which influence our core beliefs, behaviors, and our relationships - big time. But unlike our genes, becoming aware of our core beliefs and how they influence our behavior can help us reflect on whether they serve or limit us. And then we can choose to make a change.

Professionally, we strive for growth and opportunity. We read leadership books and listen to all the podcasts. We hire business coaches, and run side gigs galore. We want to climb the ladder, and we’re willing to learn, work overtime, dedicate our weekends, and prioritize work over our personal lives for the sake of our professional future. But, do we invest as much in our relational future?

Have you ever shared a challenge with your partner and been met with a “don’t worry, you’re great.” While our partner may mean to support us or cheer us up, this response can often end up making us feel alone and unseen. Here’s a Ritual reframe on what actually happens in those moments, and how we can turn them into deeply intimate moments of growth, between you and your partner, and you and you.

Saying no isn’t bad - it’s an important skill in every relationship Relationships require a lot from us, but they don’t require us to lose ourselves in them. How can we stay close to each other while still being true to ourselves? This is where people struggle most so often stuck in the belief that boundaries are meant to keep *the bad stuff* out, why do we need to put up boundaries with our loved ones? But we do. And here’s why.